Pearls of Wisdom for a Happy Anniversary!




As an assistant cruise director on the Love Boat, I hosted a party that included more than 2500 years of marriage.  I asked the couples to tell me their secrets. How did they stay married for over half a century, when most of us can’t even get a second date? They were happy to share their wisdom and they hope it helps everyone have more second dates and full centuries of marriage.

Panama Cruise Pearls of Wisdom from October 1999
Kiss good night every night before you go to sleep.
Share everything especially your feelings.
Never go to bed angry.
Plenty of loving is what the doctor ordered.
When you are angry go out for a walk.
Be patient with each other.
Be willing to say you are sorry.
Don’t try to get in the last word.
Remember that you have made a commitment.
Compromise is one of the main keys to success.
Laughing is very healthy for the soul of your relationship.
Don’t Lose Respect for each other.
Be nice—remember what your mother said, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Grin and bear it—who’s perfect?
Be best friends.
Learn to say YES DEAR.
Keep your mouth shut.
Teamwork is the most important thing. Remember you are on the same team.
Really Listen. Don’t plan what you are going to say next. Listen to what your partner is saying.
Dance your life away and enjoy it.
Thank god each day for what you’ve been given.
Don’t find fault.
Keep a sense of humor.
Communication is key, Listen to each other and talk to each other.
Carefully chose your mate.
Respect each other.
Remember what you said the first day—your vows.
Have a lousy memory.
Always stay in love.

At our wedding, December 19, 2009, Rabbi Zeldin read the Apache wedding blessing:
Now we will feel no rain, for each of us will be shelter for the other.
Now we will feel no cold, for each of us will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness, for each of us will be companion to the other.
Now we are two persons, but there is only one life before us.”

We wish you many years of happiness, sunsets and celebration!!! We are enjoying our anniversary!
Lisa and George

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Article first published as Pearls of Wisdom for Staying Married on Technorati.


Lisa Ellen Niver

Lisa Niver is an award-winning travel expert who has explored 102 countries on six continents. This University of Pennsylvania graduate sailed across the seas for seven years with Princess Cruises, Royal Caribbean, and Renaissance Cruises and spent three years backpacking across Asia. Discover her articles in publications from AARP: The Magazine and AAA Explorer to WIRED and Wharton Magazine, as well as her site WeSaidGoTravel. On her award nominated global podcast, Make Your Own Map, Niver has interviewed Deepak Chopra, Olympic medalists, and numerous bestselling authors, and as a journalist has been invited to both the Oscars and the United Nations. For her print and digital stories as well as her television segments, she has been awarded three Southern California Journalism Awards and two National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards and been a finalist twenty-two times. Named a #3 travel influencer for 2023, Niver talks travel on broadcast television at KTLA TV Los Angeles, her YouTube channel with over 2 million views, and in her memoir, Brave-ish, One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty.

3 responses to “Pearls of Wisdom for a Happy Anniversary!

  1. From Marcia:

    I love your "pearls of wisdom", dear Lisa! I know that in the year 2059 you and George will be on a different Love Boat celebrating your 50th! In the meantime, enjoy the boat you and all the Nivers are on right this minute. Love ya', Marcia

  2. From Fortune

    Happy Anniversary, you two.
    Congratulations, and much love,
    p.s. These pearls of wisdom are fantastic!

  3. From Nanette:

    Wishing you another happy anniversary. Hope you are enjoying your cruise!
    Happy and a healthy New Year. Enjoy your family and say hi for us.

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